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Mom Porn: If You Could Have A Whole Day to Yourself…

Mom Porn:  If You Could Have A Whole Day to Yourself…

I suppose another upside to parenting (besides our loving, perfect children, of course, ha), is that when you start making some time for yourself, it is like discovering a whole new appreciation for the world.  Activities that were previously taken for granted are now luxuries.  Like, “Oh, you want me to wait in this room at the Dr.’s office by myself?”  AWESOME!  “Oh, there are magazines in here, too?”  SWEET.  “Oh, it’s gonna be another 20 minutes until she can see me?”  GREAT, I have time for Facebook, too!  It is actually kind of awesome.

I took a first real whole day away from my daughter this past Sunday.  I left the house at 9am, and didn’t return until 5pm.  It was my birthday the previous week, and what I was really craving was a shopping trip – alone – without my baby or husband.  If you are a parent, read on to experience extreme jealously.  If you aren’t a parent, the following is probably going to sound like a normal weekend.  This is how my day went:

  1.  Picked up a girlfriend (who is the mother of three), and went to eat breakfast at Cardamom, a fantastic breakfast spot in North Park.  Their croissants rival the Parisian variety – give them a try!  We had an actual conversation, feasted on quiche, salad, and a croissant (which we actually got to eat), and laughed in relief as we jumped into the car without a care in the world as we heard a baby crying in a stroller nearby.
  2. We went to the mall – not just any mall, but Fashion Valley Mall – home to Bloomie’s, Nordy’s, Neiman’s, etc.  We hit our favorites — and, get this, were able to try-on our purchases at a leisurely pace.  I got some cute dresses from Zara, and some shorts at Abercrombie (which I usually am not a fan of, but they were having a fantastic shorts sale, and I admit to loving short-shorts of  which they have an abundance, so, I got a couple pairs)!  I really could have done much more damage, but we were on a time schedule, as we had beach plans.
  3. We pick up another friend of mine, and head for the beach.  We decided on Ocean Beach (OB), as we thought it wouldn’t be as crowded as Mission Beach or Pacific Beach…but it was crazy busy.  Luckily, we found a parking spot, hit a convenience store for drinks and snacks, and headed to the sand as the smell of marijuana and fish tacos wafted through the air as we walked.  Gotta love the beaches in SoCal. We found a spot on the beach, and sat and talked for a lingering 2.5 hours.  We chatted about military spouse life, kids, family, everything.  Just us, tanning in the sun.  It was blissful.

Then, we drove home.  When I got home, my husband was headed out to eat with our daughter, so I hopped in the car and joined them.  They had a fantastic day together, just the two of them.  I vow to myself to carve these days out in the future.  Yes, I felt a bit – er, ok, A LOT guilty for leaving my daughter with her Dad all day, but I shouldn’t, and I will try very hard not to worry so much in the future.

I’m slowly returning to the world I once knew as my daughter becomes more independent.  Every phase in parenting has an upside and a downside.  Right now, an occasional ‘me’ day is what I need to bring some balance to meeting the every need of a small toddler all day. It was awesome.  Do it – now!

Parents:  How often to you schedule ‘me’ time?  How does your spouse feel about personal time?  I would love to hear what works for you and your family!

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  1. ddupre315

    Happy to hear you got out for some sanity time. 😀 Please try not to feel guilty for taking it. I think when she’s older and sees you taking time for yourself now and then it will be a great life lesson you are teaching her. Plus….sanity. lol Oh and there’s the whole daddy/daughter bonding time too. All good things.

  2. Amy

    Love this!!!! Very cute! Work on that guilt thing…you need the time to yourself, and Frank enjoys (and needs?) alone time with the little one too!

  3. Allyn Hertzbach

    Sounds like a great day and very good idea — not the least for Frank and Estelle.

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